You’re Not Failing At Motherhood. It’s Hard For Your Brain. There’s A Difference.

Welcome to Mom On Purpose, where it’s all about helping moms overcome challenges and live their best lives. My hope is by being here, you are more inspired to become the mom you are made to be. I’m Natalie, your host, a wife, boy mom, dog mama, Chicagoan, and former lawyer turned professionally, certified coach. If you’re here to grow, I can help. Let’s go.

Hello, my beautiful friends. Welcome to the podcast. I’m so happy to be here with you today with a little bit of a cold that I am kind of recovering from. I think it is, of course, from, from the little ones as it will be. I’m just so used to it right now. I’m really proud of myself for the mental work the mindset that I have sicknesses, really don’t phase me unless it’s like the flu, which we have had a run with this, winter spring as well.

But the colds, like those sort of head cold things, just, you know, it’s like nothing now, right? The capacity work of motherhood, it never ends. So anyways, I apologize if you kind of hear me being nasally or a cough drop in my mouth or a sore throat. That is what’s happening over here. But I wanted to talk with you about this. So we’re doing it. We’re going to talk about how motherhood is hard for your brain and why it matters that you understand this, not just sort of intellectually, but actually very practically and how powerful it can be. Before we dive in. If you could leave me a review, it would really mean so much to me. I read all of those reviews and it really helps get this work out to more moms. It sort of cues Spotify or Apple Podcasts, like, hey, people are enjoying this podcast and liking it, so let’s just kind of, show it to other women who might like it as well.

So thank you so much in advance. I really, really, do appreciate it and would love it if you would write a review. Okay, now let’s dive in to your brain and why your brain is, how it is, why it makes motherhood so hard. I think that we, are are just not taught like thoughts create feelings and the facts of any circumstance. Don’t create your feelings. So when you learn this work, it’s not work that is intuitive. Like it, it takes years and years and years. And even when it does become more of a habit, you still have to do it right? So I’m in the habit of showering. I’m in the habit of washing my hair. I think curling my hair is a really good example, right? Because that was a skill I really had to learn. It’s not something that’s just like simple, like showering I kind of think is simple, right?

We can all just pour some water on ourselves and put some soap on and rinse it off. But when I think about curling my hair, like if I had Steve, my husband try to curl my hair, I would probably get burned for sure. My hair would probably get like fried, burned in some capacity piece of it would probably fall out. It would definitely not look curled. You know, I have been curling my hair for decades and it is such a habit now, that I can do it like mindlessly, right? I’m not focusing on it, it’s just a habit that I’m in. I like to think of managing your mind like that because it’s something that is not intuitive. It is a learned skill, but it can become a habit. And so I’m sort of jumping ahead here, but let me just back up for a second because I think that will be more helpful, especially if you’re newer to this work.

If you’re not inside the Mom On Purpose Membership and you’re like, I love this podcast, and I get like a little umph from it, like a little deeper understanding or a little shift, I want you to know like a little bit more about what’s actually happening in your brain and why it can feel like your life, is what’s causing you to feel either mom guilt or resentment or like you’re failing at motherhood. Whatever the feelings are that you’re experiencing, it seems like it’s coming from your life. And I think with respect to motherhood, it is even more so like this because it’s one of the easiest places to make everything mean something about who you are. Like, just take an example of like work. If you’re not doing that great of a job at work, you could think, okay, well I just need to work on this skill, or whatever it is.

I have never to this day had a mom come to me and say, you know what, I’m a really great mom, but I need to work on the skill of snapping. Like never, right? It’s always, I feel so bad, like my kids deserve better. I feel like I’m failing as a mom. I’m yelling more than I want to, right? And that’s because we take our actions. Let’s just take the yelling example here, and we make it mean something about us as, as parents, as people. And so instead of making it like a skill that you can learn, it becomes so personal and that then makes it actually harder to do the work because it, it feels so heavy when every little thing becomes personal, it doesn’t seem like, oh, this is just a skill that I can work on. We conflate our actions like the snapping or the yelling or struggling during our kids fighting.

We, we make that mean something about us. And so it feels like we’re failing or we have mom guilt or, we’re in the comparison trap or, you know, we have like the low grade nighttime thoughts that are unhelpful, but that is just an unmanaged mind, especially in that example. But in the other examples, it’s skills. It never is actually about you as a human being. Your goodness is 100%, you are 100% worthy and there’s nothing you need to do to earn that. But I just think the nature of motherhood, we take it so personally, and what I’m not saying is that we go to the other end of the spectrum, of course not, where we’re just like, oh, I yelled at my kids and it’s totally fine. I’m a good mom, right? But again, if you’re listening to this highly likely that you are very much on the other side of the spectrum, that’s typically where my clients fall. It’s like there are skills that you want to work on with respect to your mental and emotional health that would be really helpful for how you show up as a mom. Whether it’s managing overwhelm, whether it’s getting more done in less time, whether it’s your parenting skills from connection instead of being in like the logistics all day long, whether it’s, you know, the mom guilt and the worrying, you know, all of these different areas that touch our lives as moms. I think that when you see, oh, these are skills that I want to work on, it’s has nothing to do with me as a person. It’s like life changing. It really is. I have no better way than that to describe it. Kind of a tangent, but one of my clients just messaged me today just thanking me for this work. She’s been in the program for several years.

She’s got adult kids and she, was just saying how like life changing this work is for her, especially caring for like aging parents. And, it was just such a moment for me to pause and reflect on the work that we’re doing here inside the membership and in this community because it touches every single phase of life. It’s not just like, oh yeah, we’re working on tantrums, right? We’re working on your thoughts and your thoughts. Create your experience of motherhood. Now this does not mean that motherhood is not actually hard, right? Please don’t hear me say that it is hard, right? But it’s hard because it’s hard for your brain, okay? The only way that you have a feeling ever is because of the way that your brain is interpreting something. So you have a thought, and that thought creates a feeling, not, not sometimes is really important, right?

It’s not like, oh, yes, sometimes my thoughts create my feelings or that my thoughts have an influence on my feelings. It’s 100% of the time, and we know this right? Because your husband or your mother-in-law or your sister-in-law when they’re around your kids or their own kids or whatever it is, right? They have different thoughts and feelings, and so they show up differently. So for example, my husband Steve and I, like, we, we parent, you know, of course in the full spectrum pretty similarly, but, but there are those micro instances where we parent different, like I have a much, more nurturing type of approach, I would say with the kids. Even though I’m holding boundaries, I do it very like warmly. And I would say for him, he’s a little bit, I want to say colder, that’s definitely my descriptive word, but he will hold that boundary in more of like, an assertive sort of, authoritarian way, right?

Same exact circumstance. But he and I interpret it differently. How could that be? Right? Let’s just say our boys are fighting or something, right? I can literally hear them screaming, downstairs right now as I’m recording this. So they’re fighting, he’s going to interpret it one way. I’m going to interpret it a different way based on a thought that we are thinking. It’s so important that you simplify it like this because if you are the one who’s having the thoughts that are creating your experience, then you are the one who can solve it. It’s not about saying, oh, before you could blame your life and now you’re going to blame yourself. It’s actually recognizing there’s no one to blame. It’s like one of my favorite thoughts. There’s just no one to blame. So it’s hard for your brain. Motherhood is hard for your brain because of how your brain is wired.

It is wired to scan for what’s wrong. It’s wired to look for what needs fixing, what might happen next, and what should be better, really. And this is happening on default as a survival mechanism. You could just imagine, right, for evolutionary purposes, how helpful this was. Like if your brain is always scanning for what’s wrong, it keeps you safe, it keeps you included in the pack, it keeps you solving problems. Again, very useful. That, anxiety, that worry, very, very useful for survival purposes. You can imagine though the difference between then and now and how in modern motherhood, that same survival part of the brain, if left unmanaged, will create chaos. And I’m not talking about a little chaos. I’m talking about like the, the big, mental and emotional problems that you will have if you’re having a lot of anxiety. If you’re having a lot of worry, if you’re having a lot of self-doubt, if you’re in the comparison trap, if life just feels really hard, if you’re really emotional, if you’re worried about a transition like that is coming from your brain, not to blame you, but to understand, oh, of course I’m a human being and I don’t even understand that thoughts create feelings and how to manage my thoughts and how to look at my thoughts and how each thought has an impact on how I feel.

If you don’t have that practice and you are not sort of, using that practice, like I’m thinking about my thoughts daily, okay? I’m not always writing them down in this season of life with three little ones, but I am thinking about them and questioning them and letting them go. I have a three part thought work framework that I teach inside the Mom On Purpose Membership, and this is what I base my coaching on, and I will coach you weekly on this, and you get weekly group coaching and you can listen to other women get coached on their thoughts too. And it’s not like, I think sometimes when we see, especially on social media, like, positivity around motherhood or affirmations around motherhood or mantras, it can feel a little bit light and fluffy. And this is not that I want to be super clear. This is an actual exercise, thought management exercise.

And it has just absolutely changed my life in the thousands of lives that I have, been able to work with over the last several years. And so what I want you to know is that, you know, when motherhood feels hard when, you’re going through it, the reason that it feels hard is not because you’re doing something wrong, it’s literally because it’s hard for your brain. And just knowing that gives you so much power, it doesn’t mean that you can’t feel your feelings, right when they’re already there. I teach that as well. Let’s feel your feelings, but then let’s manage your mind so that you can actually solve for it. Because if you’re always in that sort of worry, self-doubt, negativity, frustration, overwhelm, whatever feeling you’re feeling, you’ll carry that in to the next chapter. It just might show up a little bit differently, but you will carry it because as I like to say, you take your brain with you.

And so brain patterns, specifically cognitive distortions, will make motherhood feel so much harder, okay? So if your brain, like a lot of healthy human brains goes to catastrophic thinking, goes to, you know, okay, my child has like a little bit of a problem right now. And so all of a sudden now you think this is going to be a huge problem for the rest of their life and they’re, I don’t know, never going to have a career or make friends or anything, right? We catastrophize maybe you go to all or nothing thinking either everything’s amazing or, you know, everything’s terrible. Maybe you go into the comparison trap, right? All of these sort of cognitive distortions that you likely experience without knowing it, fairness is a big one. Oh my goodness, I don’t have my list in front of me. I’m going to teach another masterclass on this in the in the Membership, you go to masterclass every single month, which is like a labor of love, seriously.

But, I’m going to do another one in cognitive distortions where we dive into that because I think it’s just foundational to navigating life and motherhood. It’s like I am so much more chill as a person and I’m still high achieving in type A, right? But like, I’m, I’m so much sturdier internally my highs and lows are like little rolling hills versus high highs and low lows because I can catch the cognitive distortions in the way that my brain is thinking. I can watch my own thoughts and see that even if they’re very real and very true, if they’re unhelpful, they gotta go. There was a time when my husband, not that long ago, maybe a year or so ago, was a little bit worried about his job because they were going to, make some changes and do some layoffs. He was really worried, and I managed my mind so much around that to be able to let him think what he wants to think and feel how he wants to feel and not go into trying to coach him, but instead me being able to just support him, have compassion for him, you know, like, honor him in a way, like validate his stress, being real for him without taking it on, without mirroring him.

Because here’s what we do on default, my friends, we mirror the people who were around the most, their emotions. So if my husband’s feeling stressed about work, then I feel stressed about my husband, right? And that’s not helpful. Now we have two stressed people, right? Especially with something like that where it’s like so out of my control. And so instead it was okay managing my mind. How do I want to think about this regardless of it being likely or realistic or like, it doesn’t matter, right? What matters is, how do I want to think about this? And what you have to really understand is when you think a thought you feel a certain way, and if you’re used to feeling certain emotions right now, you will recreate those emotions. And so it doesn’t like really matter what’s happening in your circumstances because that’s just what you’re used to. I’ll never forget, I can’t remember if I’ve mentioned this on the podcast before. I know I have in the membership where I talk about, a client who said like she really realized that it was her creating her overwhelm when she thought back to different seasons of life, like more than a decade ago. And she was overwhelmed, like overwhelmed in college, overwhelmed newly weds, overwhelmed in this season of motherhood. And she was like, oh, like it is me. I am taking my brain with me. And for you, it might, it might look different. It might be that in your season of motherhood, you’ve actually just never navigated something this challenging before. And I think that’s true for a lot of people it’s not true for me. I, my childhood was way harder than motherhood is. And I think that, I am a lot mentally stronger because of that.

But here’s what I want you to know. I don’t want you to wish that it was easier in your circumstances, right? Because no one at the end of their life is like, my life was just so easy. Have you ever heard someone on their deathbed at the end of their life just writing books about, or interviewing or like talking about like, my life was just rainbows and daisies. It was really easy. No, they talk about their hardships and their life lessons and the beauty in it, all right? Like our hardships make us stronger and there’s depth to it. And it doesn’t mean that we wish for more hardships, but instead of wishing for it to be easier, instead of wishing for the next season in motherhood wish for you to get stronger, and I do this myself, my friends, whenever I catch myself thinking like that default thought, that primitive brain thought like, I wish it was easier, I catch myself and I think a different thought.

And my thought is, no, I wish I was stronger because the hard is created by my brain. And that, again, that doesn’t mean ’cause I think high achieving women, we just do this, right? We’re so hard on ourselves already. So then if motherhood, feels hard, and we’re doing this work, especially for my, my membership girlies, I know that this comes up a lot after doing it for years. We’re like, well, shouldn’t I be past this? And it’s like, no, you’re never past being a human being. It just gets easier to manage your brain. So going back to the beginning analogy with curling my hair, it’s like I don’t have to think about curling my hair anymore because I’m in the habit of doing it. Like I have that skill down. And so the same is true with my thoughts. I can look at my thoughts and turn them around very quickly because I have that skill.

But if I want curled hair, I still have to turn my curling iron on, wait for it, get to get hot, pick it up and do the actual motions in order to have curly hair. I can’t just look in the mirror and say, I know how to curl my hair, so click my fingers and it’s curled. No, I have to actually do the actions of taking it chunk by chunk, piece by piece underneath different sections, straightening the ends a little bit, getting it exactly how I want it, right? The same is true with thought work. It’s like, just because you learned how to do it in the past doesn’t mean that all of a sudden with a new circumstance, it clicks or is easy or you don’t go into resentment or self pity. I still turn my thoughts around with self pity, but here’s the crazy thing.

It’s like motherhood feels hard because of your brain, but when you have brain management tools, real tools for your mental and emotional health, it’s almost like the hard gets easier. And a better analogy for this might be like going to the gym, right? Because if you’ve never gone to the gym and you go to the gym at first it’s like really hard. It’s like, wait a minute, what I don’t know about this level of heart, like I feel like I might throw up and why am I doing this to myself? But at least let me say that’s how I feel when I haven’t gone to the gym in a while and then I get nauseous easily. I’m like, this is just too much. Why am I doing this? But over time, as I keep going, you know, whether it’s a few times a week, and then week after week, month after month, in the course of a year, definitely in the course of three years going to the gym, it’s like, it’s, it’s still a workout.

I still feel like, oh yeah, that was hard, but it was like a good kind of heart. You all know what I’m talking about, right? I know this gym example is going to resonate. The same is true. And, and even just thinking about that client who reached out to me, it’s like the same is true, right? She was talking about she’s been in the membership for a few years and she’s like a completely different person in the most subtle of ways, but in a big way. For her, the shift is internal. It’s like she’s not trying to control her parents, she’s letting them be them, and she’s not feeling all of this pressure to be someone she’s not and caring for her aging parents and you know what I mean? Like, it’s, it’s the shifts that she experiences from doing this work over and over and over and getting those reps in, of looking at our thoughts, pulling those thoughts apart and thinking more helpful, feeling thoughts.

And so what’s hard becomes easy. I was recently out with my girlfriends and they were talking about the mental load of motherhood and it was like a great conversation. But what I would add to that, or what I want to just add to it here in like my professional capacity as a coach is that yes, the mental load is real, right? All I’m talking about there is, you know, you’re responsible for a lot. Like if you just think of pre-kids, it’s like you are responsible for you. And then if you think of your life now, right? Or my life now, it’s like I’m responsible for me and my three kids, right? And so, and of course everything else, the home and the, the dogs and all of that. And so the mental load, meaning the responsibilities have compounded, right? It’s not just me and my life and my home.

It’s now all of these kids. And quite often, more times than not that mental load falls on mom. Not always. And it’s obviously getting better, but what I want to talk about here is how you can empower yourself around that. Because what you can do is you can start to feel sorry for yourself for the exact life that you wanted and created. And yes, it looks different and is harder than you thought, right? When we’re eight years old and we’re imagining getting married and having kids and all the things, this is not it. We are not imagining the mental load, but that’s okay. We just have to retell that story in adult lives. That’s what it’s about. And so the more tools you have to help you rewrite that story to help you, put everything on your calendar using my time freedom calendaring system to be clear about your purpose and priorities, to manage your cognitive distortions, it’s like, it’s not that the mental load isn’t there for me or for my clients, it’s just that we’re able to manage it at a much higher level.

And so it actually feels lighter. Like I remember it was, it was a little while ago, maybe a few months ago, someone was like, I think this was in the membership, if I’m remembering correctly. Like, it just seems like it’s impossible for me to imagine you doing all of that, that you’re doing, like you’re doing so much, how do you do it all? It was one of those questions like, how do you do it all? And I think, I think especially for new members in the membership or you know, maybe just people following me on social media and all of us, right? We can do this to people who we don’t know is that we think that their lives either are made up or it’s just their highlight reel, or they must be happy all of the time. And because they’re doing a lot, that must mean that they never feel negative emotions and everything’s so easy.

And again, that’s a little bit of all or nothing thinking like either it’s super, super hard and I’m failing at motherhood, or it’s gotta be like easy and rainbows and daisies. And actually, you know, I find this season of life with three kids under five years old, like pretty challenging. And I’m not afraid to say that, but it’s, I never think like I’m failing as a mom or this isn’t working, or I’m spread too thin or something should be different. I think we get ourselves into trouble when we think like, motherhood’s not supposed to be this hard. It’s like, oh no, it was always supposed to be hard. You just weren’t taught the brain management tools to make it easier. So for me, it is challenging. There are tantrums and chaos and moving parts and you know, I am responsible for a lot, but I don’t like, I’m, I’m very good at catching myself in any self-pity.

Like, I don’t feel sorry for myself. I just don’t think it’s, it’s a problem that it feels hard sometimes. Does that make sense? I think it makes sense intellectually, but it will feel very different when you do this work. And again, I’m telling you, I am self-coaching daily in my mind. I’m not writing it down daily. I do create mantras and journal prompts every month to go along with the masterclass that can be extraordinarily helpful for that topic. And obviously there’s a written coaching section inside the membership where I answer written coaching. But for me, in this season of life, I, and also, like, I’m, I’m skilled at it, right? I’m looking at my thoughts and turning them around and I’m listening to coaching and other people get coached. I’m a member in other group coaching programs and every single week I’m listening to those replays.

I get feedback all the time. I love that you moved the call to Monday. ’cause now I just know I’m going to listen to that Monday replay. You know, for those members who don’t show up live and get coached, the weekly replays are so valuable because you can hear the thought patterns and then the distorted thinking and the, it’s not like sometimes I think people in my extended family think I’m just like giving advice about how to be a mom. And that is, you know, couldn’t be further from the truth. That’s not what it is. It’s real coaching. It’s, I don’t know what you should do, but I’m going to show you what’s happening in your brain and we’re going to clean that up so that you are thinking and feeling in a way that is very empowered for your life. And then you’re going to know what to do.

So for example, if your kid is struggling with friends and you feel really stressed and anxious and worried about that, the solutions that you come up with from stressed, anxiety and worry are not going to be the solutions that you want to go with. Instead, you want to clean that up so that you are thinking in a way that empowers you and feels empowering for your child. And you want to feel, how do you want to feel for me? I’d want to feel connected, curious, confident in my kid, and then I’m going to take much better action. And I promise you this has such a positive impact on your kids and parenting gets so much easier. I get so much positive feedback, unsolicited on my Connected Parenting framework. Its really become, I think, a core pillar of, of this work that I do. And it’s, it’s really like me taking my professional coaching tools and applying them to parenting.

And I came up with this four part framework that’s just based in connection, but how you can actually lead like so much about parenting is a leadership and how you can lead yourself right? It, it’s called parenting. It’s about you and how you are thinking and feeling and the decisions that you are making, what you’re saying to your kids, how you’re holding boundaries, all of that is about you. It doesn’t matter the age of your kids. And so, you know, the takeaway here is really motherhood. This whole kind of,identity that we’re in for as long as we’re alive is going to be challenging for your brain because of the way that the brain is wired. And that’s okay. You can learn brain management tools to help you override the unhelpful, primitive part of the brain and lead from the prefrontal part of the brain.

And in the membership for the weekly group coaching, we look at specific examples from people’s lives because looking at like things generally is going to give you a general result and it’s just not that helpful. So specificity really matters with your own self coaching and with getting coached because it’s sort of like if you have a general problem, you’re going to get a general solution, but that’s not how we live our lives. We have like a very specific micro problems. It’s like my sister-in-law isn’t responding to my text message and you know, her son’s birthday’s coming up and I really want to know, what to get him and what time the party is or something like that, right? Like there is specificity in the tension and the friction that we’re experiencing because that’s how our brain thinks. But what happens is our brain will then, when we’re trying to like review things and interpret things, our brain will take a bunch of examples and like lump them together.

And that’s really where both the art and science of your own coaching and self coaching comes into play. That’s so important for you because again, this is not like affirmations and sort of like positive thinking. It’s nothing like that. I think people are very surprised at the, the science and the art of what you learn when you join my containers because,I take it so seriously in like a really helpful way, it’s light, but it’s serious, right? It’s, serious because it’s so helpful and I always say it, but not a day that goes by. Do I not use these tools because I have three kids under five and so it’s really good news, my friends, that this is a skill brain management. This is not an identity issue. You’re not failing as a mom. I have an entire mom, like it’s your job framework where I teach you how to create your own experience of motherhood based on your own expectations so you can treat it like this high performance job and stop looking to your kids and their grades and their performance and you know, their outcomes and their happiness for you to feel better.

I was just coaching someone the other day talking about using rewards, and it’s like, if you are happy and using rewards for your kids when they’re doing a good job based on your standards, then guess what? They’re going to feel the opposite they’re going to feel disconnection and like love is conditional when they don’t do a good job. And that’s a big bummer for them that threatens their attachment. I did a entire training on this, an episode. It was one of the private episodes when the podcast wasn’t public weekly, but it’s inside the membership now where I talk about why not to use sticker charts rewards and how that really creates this, child who’s performative and people pleasing. And then the connection and the relationship, is sort of fractured, right? And, and that makes sense if you just think about, okay, my kid is getting so much more love and such a happier mom when they’re doing a good job.

And I I still tell my kids like awesome, like way to go. I just don’t make it like disproportionate to when they miss the mark and when they fail. And honestly, I try to make a bigger deal of it when they mess up and they fail and they’re not doing “good”. I try to make a bigger deal out of like me being proud of them for trying and how they’re such a good kid no matter what. And that doesn’t mean I don’t hold boundaries, absolutely, but if you’re raised anything like me and that kind of traditional authoritarian parenting, it’s like, it feels a little bit punitive and shame-based when you miss the mark when you make a mistake or when you know you hurt your brother or something like that. It’s like it’s, it threatens like attachment which weakens the connection, which, is very unhelpful and problematic for long-term relationship with your kids.

So kind of a little bit of a tangent, but I think really powerful and important here because a lot of the times what we’re doing as moms is we are taking our kids’ challenges and struggles and then making that mean something about us. Like we center ourselves in their challenges and then we make it mean that we’re failing. So if your kids are having a hard time at school or they’re having a hard time with friends or whatever it is, right? Their struggles all of a sudden become the reason that we’re failing. And it does use such a disservice in motherhood as well as your kids and their childhood. And so we gotta unwind that. We have to make sure that you’re not centering yourself and that you define your own success standards for motherhood not based on them. This is real leadership. I was like, I’ve had so many aha moments as a mom and it really dawned on me when I realized like, oh my gosh, parenting is actually just leadership but applied to your home and your kids and I love it, right? Because, I don’t know, it’s just fun to understand it in that way. It doesn’t mean it’s easy all of the time, of course not. But it gives you a framework to work with so that you are leading your kids when they’re struggling because they will struggle. It doesn’t mean it’s easy and that, you know, any mom would ever want to see their kids struggle, but they’re going to struggle. And so how can you show up for them from a connected, loving, warm place and also believe in them to navigate their own challenges, right? Your brain will not do that on default, okay? Your brain will make you the center of their problem. Meaning your brain will have all these thoughts like, I’m failing as a mom. It’s because I was like this when I was a kid, or it’s because I was too hard on them last year, or it’s because I moved us across the country or whatever, right?

Your brain’s going to have crazy thoughts about why this is about you and why you’re failing. And if you don’t have these brain management tools, it’s going to be exponentially harder because it’s going to feel like I don’t know what to do to solve this. Like, a little bit like of that angst and can feel a little bit frantic. And I want you to know that you can manage your mind to a place where you’re feeling, steady and certain and connected and warm and confident regardless of what is happening externally. Isn’t that crazy? It is like literally having the secret to motherhood. I’m just so passionate about it my friend. So you are not failing at motherhood. It is hard for your brain. There’s a huge difference and it’s so important. I believe every mom should have these tools. So come check these tools out inside the Mom On Purpose Membership. I would love to coach you and for you to experience it. You can cancel anytime with a button on the help page in your portal and at least you know for this upcoming quarter. It’s like give yourself that gift so that you can learn the tools that will really change the rest of your life. Alright, my friends, I will see you inside. Take care.