Mindset changed my life as a mom in the most unexpected and amazing ways. My life is so much better because of the mental strength and growth mindset I’ve grown into (and continue to use). It’s helped me in motherhood and beyond.

Mindset Changed My Life As A Mom

Here are 10 specific ways mindset has changed my life in motherhood…

1. I don’t yell (for the most part).

I grew up in a family of yellers, so I always had a tendency to speak my mind and yell whenever I was upset or angry. But because of managing my mind and practicing this work, now I can stay calm in really triggering circumstances. I still feel angry and upset from time to time, but I’m MUCH better at allowing those feelings instead of reacting to them. I have a greater emotional capacity to feel feelings instead of reacting to them, which is a huge superpower as a mom!

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2. I stay out of the comparison trap.

The comparison trap is so tempting in motherhood. It’s easy to look at what other moms are doing and think you should be doing that, too. There’s no set standards for what it means to be a good mom, so looking to your peers is normal. The problem is that it’s unhelpful because how you show up as a mom isn’t supposed to be exactly like your friends. Because of managing my mindset, I’m able to redirect my brain out of what other moms are doing and back into my beliefs, values, and choices. This helps me feel more confident as a mom as well as more connected to moms who do it differently.

3. I don’t have a lot of worry.

I realized early on in motherhood (like right when I found out I was pregnant with my first son) that worrying was a natural response to all the new changes happening. But I decided (through mindset work) that I didn’t want to worry away all the joy. So, I learned how to put “worry in the back seat” as I like to call it. Instead of being fueled by worry, I allow it to pass (if it does come up), and I choose more confident, empowering thoughts. This helps me support my kids without creating more unhelpful emotions (like anxiety).

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4. I don’t feel like I’m failing as a mom.

It’s become a common narrative in motherhood to constantly feel like you’re “failing” with every mistake or misstep. This leads to insecurity, doubts, and showing up even worse in motherhood. Instead of basing my “success” as a mom on my kids’ performance or their happiness, I base it on things I can control. Inside the Mom On Purpose Membership, I teach a course on how to “Mom Like It’s Your Job” where I show you how to create standards to evaluate yourself as a mom. I have about 10 I use myself and give you inside this course. I definitely recommend it because this is a part of motherhood that you’ll take with you forever (the constant evaluation of how you’re doing)!

5. I have a strong sense of who I am as a mom.

I am not an overwhelmed mom. I’m not a tired mom. I’m not a depleted mom. I’m not an angry mom. I feel these emotions from time to time. But they’re not who I am. I am a good mom. A mom who is energetic, loving, strong, playful, and connected. When I feel any negative emotions, I name them and describe them as feelings. The difference between saying “I am overwhelmed” and “I feel overwhelmed” is everything! You can get more tips like this from me over @mom.onpurpose on Instagram.

6. I have a strong sense of who my kids are.

Mindset work helped me see that I don’t want to describe my kids based on their behavior. If my child doesn’t listen to me, I don’t want to think “he’s disrespectful.” Instead, I know I have really good kids. AND I also know that they take imperfect action. But I don’t use that action against them as part of their identity. This is so important so that they don’t see themselves as bad, thus perpetuating bad behavior. Instead, they can learn their goodness is internal and I see them that way no matter what. As for their actions or problem behaviors, I can help them repair without making them “bad kids.”

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7. I know how to navigate tantrums and “problem” behaviors.

I never thought tantrums could be easy! But now I have a tool belt of different tools to pull from that help me stay calm. It is life changing and something I never thought was possible! Listen to this podcast to get more tools for dealing with hard moments with your kids: How To Handle Hard Moments (Podcast).

8. I use repair for all the mistakes and failures along the way.

Oh boy do I make mistakes! I also fail, get it all wrong, and just mess up. Thankfully, I’m well versed in repair to help me restore the relationship. A good repair is an open apology with an intent to make right where there was a wrongdoing. It’s also changed behavior. As a “human mom” (as I like to say) repair is an essential tool because there’s no point in time where I’ll be a perfect “robot mom.”

Up Next: Listen to this podcast: How To Repair When You Mess Up

9. I see motherhood as a growth journey that I continue to evolve in.

There are so many awesome containers for growth, like setting a weight loss goal, starting a business, and getting married. Motherhood is another space where I see enormous opportunities for continuous growth. I view my purpose as being the best mom I can be and growing into that over time. As my life changes, as my kids change, as time goes on, I know that I can continue to learn and grow. This is such a gift!

10. I don’t feel like I’m at the effect of motherhood.

I naturally tend towards having a victim mindset, with a “poor me” attitude. Mindset work has helped me recognize this pattern and change it with a lot of self-compassion. This way I get stronger, I’m not blaming anyone for my life, and I see my life as happening for me. I can overcome obstacles this way, and create a purposeful, aligned life. 10/10 recommend this if you have a victim mentality in motherhood!

A Final Note

Mindset tools in motherhood don’t make you a perfect mom and they don’t remove your challenges. But they do help you navigate challenges, make better decisions, and show up as the mom you genuinely want to be. These tools have changed my life, and I hope they do the same for you! If you want to do more of this work, be sure to check out my Free Course For Moms here.